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Nothing stimulates Internet users to explore the world of online dating better than successful stories of their friends and satisfied feedbacks on dating sites. However, there has been a lot of argument: is it better to meet a girl (or a man) online or in reality?
Let’s make a little comparison summarizing the pros and cons of dating on line. Here are the factors which can serve both as advantages (+) and disadvantages (-) of dating sites.
Simplicity
 It is easier to meet a friend or someone more on a site than anywhere else. No pressure, no rush, no diffidence. You do it at your own available time, from home or office, feeling comfortable and at ease, and escaping the cold winter weather or the heat of the summer. You meet someone, become great friends and find a lot of things in common before you know it. Online dating is especially convenient for busy business people and those who know what they want and who they are dating for. Most dating sites are like colorful flashy catalogues: if you are dating for a particular age, nationality, location, appearance, complexion, build, interests or personality, look no further – any dating resource will give multiple options and profiles to choose from.
 Absence of psychological pressure online also makes people feel like there is no responsibility and no obligations. Someone can take online dating very seriously, while the others think of it as a chain of entertaining games. Usually people who are new to it are dating for a relationship that will be serious and lasting and hope for a marriage as the end result. It takes some time for them to realize that for some people on the Web (just like in the real life) a relationship is just a playground and they date online just for the fun of it.
Romanticism
Exchanging sweet loving letters is romantic. There is something inexplicably appealing in waking up every morning and starting the computer to see a new letter from someone from far away. You can finally meet a soul mate and tell someone about your life from your own perspective, and they will see it the way you see it because you are the only source for them to learn about it. You can openly tell them what you want in a relationship. You can do crazy things like sending a picture of your beloved one’s name, which you just painted on a wall, and you standing next to it for their birth day. You can send romantic e-cards, lyrics of your favorite songs and funny videos to share your feelings and impressions.
But dating in reality with all its awkward situations, embarrassment and uncertainty is also romantic. Nothing can substitute for the first meeting, the first “I love you” said out loud, romantic dinners and getting to know each other through little talks on a night out. In online dating “the real stuff” comes only after it is over with a happy ending: meeting face to face and deciding that you two like each other and want to stay together.
Anonymity
Individuals from all over the world feel safe dating on line because they don’t have to give their dates any personal information, address, phone numbers or even their real names unless or until they want to. This is probably one of the main factors that make them feel that this type of dating is more comfortable and secure.
You are not the only one who can be anonymous. This quality of dating sites lets scammers profit with some “easy money”. It would be unwise to believe that without being cautious and careful one can avoid scammers. Let’s just give the following example: the number of scamming users from particular African countries registered on some sites reaches 99%! It might sound unbelievable, but simply remember how much spam and commercial letters you receive in your spam box every day. Maybe now it can seem more likely. In some cases users can simply lie about their age or marital status.
Keep in mind these pros and cons while introducing yourself to this type of dating. If you are not sure that dating on the Web is for you, start with free dating sites, to see if you can acquire a taste for it.
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